Apologies to everyone as no post has come up for almost two months. This is partially because of things going on, getting busy and writers block.
Some people cannot tell the difference between fear, and respect. In truth the two are very distant, and it would be a mistake to mix them up.
The two are usually in terms of the feelings towards a person, so is it you fear the person or respect them? They are normally in terms of how people feel towards a leader, may it be of a group of friends at school or a president of a country. Now what is the difference between a person who is feared? Compared to a person who is respected?
An example of fear to me are usually dictators, or cruel leaders. Usually get into power through corruption, so no one really wants them there really either. Some examples would be Stalin, General Franco, Mubarak, or current world Putin dare I say it. All of these men are not listened to because they are respected, it is simply because people fear them. Fear of getting punished if disobeyed, or facing consequences if not supporting them. I mean just a while ago a bunch of protestors were beat and ruthlessly hit in Russia, are we not allowed to speak up even?
Then, you have respect. I’m gonna choose Nelson Mandela, simply because with his death almost everyone knows him now. People listened to Mandela not because if you didn’t he would jail you (ironic considering he was sent to prison for speaking out, “treason” they said) but simply because people liked him. They wanted to listen to him, they felt a sense of charisma about him. Charisma is partially because you’re a good listener, a good leader who listens. They listen to him, because they respect him.
This isn’t a stupid post off topic, this also applies to leaders of maybe an unofficial group of friends at school or work. If you notice, they all have a thing in common. The jerks are cool at school until around grade 8 where people hang out with others based on personality and who they are. Jerks with jerks! The ones that are respected don’t look to boss around, they naturally have a charisma
and listen. People like someone who listens and cares, because would you rather have the football jock telling you what to do or that nice kid who doesn’t care what others think and does what he feels like? Exactly. Its like asking do you want Mandela as president or do you want Putin at the helm?
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